Wisha Shoulda Woulda Coulda

Well, this week I want to have some fun and probe your mind with a powerful point. As you read the above words I am sure you are seeking the answer as to why I am using these misspelled words.

Look at them for a moment.

Wish = Wisha

Should = Shoulda

Would = Woulda

Could = Coulda

I was talking with a friend Mickey his week and she told me she had to remind her daughters not to use the “Wisha Shoulda Woulda Coulda’. I said ‘What is that?’

“Oh,’ she explained, “That is not to think in the world of:

“I wish I had’¦

“I should have’¦

“If only I would have’¦

“I could have’¦!

I have been thinking about it and wanted to write this column on that subject.

So many people live their lives looking back to what they

‘Wisha Shoulda Woulda Coulda’!

Are you stuck in the past? Are you trying to go forward but always looking back? Do the yesterdays rob you of today and the possible tomorrows?

I am not talking here about never evaluating your life and seeing mistakes and learning from experiences. A proper look at your life and its direction and meaning is very needed and good. You look, you see, you learn, you understand some things; you may need to repent and change then move forward!

Paul writes of himself in the Bible and says,

“Forgetting those things which are past”

I press forward.

The person that is trying to live in the “Wisha Shoulda Woulda Coulda’ cannot enjoy the ‘now’ of life. Regrets haunt then in memories all day and in dreams at night.

For those of you living in this manner I know you want out of this mind trap. You are crippled in your mind like a physical injury to your foot or leg can cripple your walking.

Here is my suggestion:

Ask God to show you your true condition.

Learn from this anything that will be helpful in living your life from now on.

Then apply that to your life.

Ask Jesus to cleanse your heart and mind.

Forgive everyone.

Change anything you can for the better.

Ask God to fill your heart with His love and mercy for all people.

Open your heart to be filled with the Holy Spirit asking for guidance and direction as how best you can ‘follow Jesus’.

See the needs of people around you and all over the world.

Respond to the call of God for your life in service to others.

Commit you self by the grace of God to ‘Do’ His will for your life.

Here is how the scripture puts it:

Rejoice in the Lord always. Again I will say, rejoice!

Let your gentleness be known to all people. The Lord is at hand.

Be anxious for nothing ,

but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving,

let your requests be made known to God;

and the peace of God,

which surpasses all understanding,

will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus .

Finally, brethren,

Whatever things are true ,

Whatever things are noble ,

Whatever things are just ,

Whatever things are pure ,

Whatever things are lovely ,

Whatever things are of good report ,

if there is any virtue

and if there is anything praiseworthy

Meditate on these things .

(Philippians 4:4-8 in the Holy Bible)

Now focus on “I can do all things through Christ that strengthens me’.

(Philippians 4:13 in the Holy Bible)

I encourage you to rest in this promise:

“Likewise the Spirit also helps in our weaknesses.

For we do not know what we should pray for as we ought,


the Spirit Himself makes intercession for us with groaning which cannot be uttered.

Now He who searches the hearts knows what the mind of the Spirit is,


He makes intercession for the saints according to the will of God .

And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God, to those who are the called according to His purpose.’

(Romans 8:26-28 in the Holy Bible)

God bless you,

Pilgrim followers of Jesus,

Arthur and Denise Blessitt

Luke 18:1